Learning How To Say NO

Saying no to people is not something that I do, it's not something that I  know how to do and it’s not something that I enjoy. I feel like a mean person if I say no and I start to overthink what the other person is thinking about me, but I have reached my breaking point recently when I couldn't take or hold in the pressure and I blew up in the wrong place at the wrong time. So during the month of April, I decided to try and learn how to say no but only when I really need to and not just to be mean and awful and say no for the sake of saying no. I realized That the only person that I was hurting and being mean to was myself. By saying yes to everything I put pressure on myself and added a lot of things on my to do list and expected myself to finish them in an unrealistic time just to please everyone around me. But with the help of the strong women that I surrounded my self with lately I put me first and became more strict with myself I started learning how to say no. At first, I was still feeling a bit guilty but by the end of the month, it became easier because I saw how less stressed and more relaxed I was. I used to get hives but I didn't know the reason why and after tracking it for more than a month we suspect that I get them when I'm stressed but during the month of April I did not get any which is another reason that proves my suspicion. This is something I couldn't do by myself so I would like to thank the support system that I had during April and I would like to say that I'm still not 100% comfortable with saying no to everyone but I'm defiantly getting there and I stuck to it because I know that by saying no when I need to I would be more happy and comfortable and that I'm benefiting myself.